Saturday, March 14, 2009

The Art of Saying 'NO'

Sid has mastered it!! DD is not willing to learn!!! I am still a student of it!!!

How difficult is it to master the art of saying ‘NO’.

The first question is obviously whom are you going to say ‘NO’. At times it becomes increasingly difficult to say no to people to whom you are too closely attached, or who are just too good a friend to say no!!

Next, how can you say no and still not hurt someone?

Frankly speaking, I am too bad at this.... At times I am too outward spoken ... If I don’t want to do something, or not like something, I just say that too flatly.... and those who know me are unfortunately have been at receiving end many a time... (Sorry friends!! I can’t help it.... still mastering this art)

Finally, how do you cope up with offending some?

Now, that’s the most difficult part for me.... Probably since I have offended a lot of people because of my ruthlessness and too flat talking I feel this pinch the most. No matter how much I try to overcome this, it always lingers somewhere at the back of mind and it hurts more than anything else. (It’s really painful to when people rightfully change their behavior towards you)

So friend who have mastered this art help me out with your in valuable suggestions...

And not to forget those whom I might have hurt!! Hate mails invited!!


Devdeep said...

I think... it is difficult to say no because more than whom you are saying it to, you start thinking what do you lose if you say no or what is at stake or maybe you start thinking "let us do it. Whats the problem." So, I am still to learn the art. Congrats to you for being in a better position than me.

sukhi said...

And I am one of the sufferers too.. Faced with such a situation, either I try to avoid the person(at time going to greta lengths) or give in(most of the times), regretting later. would like to be tutored this art.

Rajeev said...

as i said in a "banana" to sid, i never have attachment with human beings. so whether i say NO to a person depends on whether i want to say NO or not. i mean if i think i derive something from a person and with my denying him something, i may lose that derivation, i won't say no (u see, i have good interpersonal "skills") and if he's useless, i am blunt and sometimes scathing. but i don't expect people to be kind to me either- i take their NO without being ruffled. i know it's there right- right to say NO.